You may recognize this lovely lady. Joan Steffend anchored the news in Minnesota for over 20 years, hosted HGTV’s hit show “Decorating Cents,” and…drumroll please…is my MOM! Yahoo! I’m one lucky daughter, that’s for sure.
My awesome mom is now focusing on a new endeavor, encouraging others (and herself, oh and me!) to find peace. She’s talking the kind of peace that is attainable, found inside all of us, and also, different for everyone. Enter her new book: “peace in peace out”. The book encourages us to find peace inside of ourselves (peace in) and look for simple ways to share that peace with others (peace out).
So, I conducted a mother-daughter mini-interview about the book…wisdom ahead!
What does “peace in” and what does “peace out” mean?
Peace in and peace out, to me, reminds me of breathing. What you take in for yourself, you put out to the world. If you take in anger, you put out anger. If you take in joy, you put out joy. The world feels what you feel to some degree. “peace in peace out” asks you to be responsible for what you willingly take in and what you put out. Everyone has energy that changes a room when you enter. This asks you to be aware of it. Are you exuding conscious peace or are you giving off the remnants of the irritating traffic jam you just slammed the car door on? You get to choose.
Why is this message important right now?
I think this message is important right now because we are living in a world that feels chaotic and the problems feel too big to solve. It leaves many of us feeling helpless in the face of it. This is a book that offers the simplest of ways to offer the best of you to the world. It offers simple suggestions that cost nothing, that take very little time, but that will likely change your world and how you interact with the rest of us. If you change your world, you change the world at large, because we are all connected.
What inspired you to find peace? Have you always lived this way?
I think at its’ basis, it was pain that inspired me to search for peace. I couldn’t understand how I could have so much of what the world called success – a beautiful family, a great job, a nice house – and still feel like there was something big missing from my life. Ultimately, after years of looking for peace and not finding it, I wrote a metaphorical book about my life (“…and she sparkled”) that gave me the answer. I was missing from my life – the part of me that knew I was “enough”, just as I was. I’m not saying life is without challenges now, but I have peace knowing that I am enough to meet them.
Tell us how to use the last half of your book…
The left pages in the first half of the book are about the small ways we can know ourselves better and be kinder to ourselves. The right pages then offer simple ways to offer understanding and kindness to others. Then it’s up to you! The last half of the book is a journal for your thoughts, stories and wisdom. I can only offer what I have found to be true, but I know that every one of us has our own brilliance to offer ourselves and the world. This part of the book is an invitation to sit in silence with your brilliant self and listen. I think the statement, “Silence is golden,” wasn’t meant for expressive kids, it was meant for adults in search of valuable meaning.
What’s an easy step for someone who wants to illuminate their inner peace?
An easy step? I would say look at some of the stories that were told to you through the years by authority figures or friends or the media – stories of you not being good enough in their eyes. Look at those stories and reframe them. Like me – I was told that I was hot headed and stubborn as a child. I look at it now with compassion for that little girl, because I can see that I was passionate and I really wanted to be heard. I know now that is a great thing and I can see the strength in that little girl and not the shame. We’ve been told lots of stories about who we are and who we should be. I’d say today’s a good day to do a rewrite.
Anything else you want to add to the message of your mission?
I would want them to know that they have one tool to change this world, and it is their magnificent self. We can’t wait for someone else to bring peace to our world, when we aren’t working at peace within every day. We do have choice and we do have the opportunity to change the world. If not us, who?
YAY! I know she’s my mom, but this is a really special book. I like using it as I begin my day, or as a supplement to meditating. It is easy to flip my fingers through the pages and randomly land on simple wisdom that I need in that moment.
Now, I want to share the peace with you!
I’m going to give away one copy of my Mom’s book!
To enter, leave a comment on this blog post with how you find peace in, or how you share peace out.
The giveaway will be open until Monday, December 3, and will contact the winner that day!