What’s that one thing that really scares you? Like…makes you sweat a little just thinking about it?
Is it speaking in front of a crowd, relocating to Spain to become a waiter on a sea-front restaurant, taking a cross-country road trip by yourself, writing a novel, or maybe it’s quitting your 9-to-5 job to open up a full-service mobile doggy salon? Or just maybe it’s as simple as reaching out more to your friends, sending your Dad or Mom an “I’m thinking about you email,” or even talking to a stranger at the grocery store.
Our fears become such a big part of who we are, that some of us (myself included) think that the fear itself is enough to satisfy our deepest dreams. What frightens us most is not our darkness, but our light (Thanks Marianne Williamson!). We become used to looking at and observing our light, that we think that’s enough for us to get by on; putting us perpetually one step behind achieving our dreams at all times.
The darkness we invite to live with us on a daily basis is our fears. It’s common for people to live more in their own darkness than in their light. We feel unworthy, incapable, and scared of our light. The light inside of us is made up of our endless gifts, talent, love, and unique enthusiasm. They are the sparkly, bright, shining puzzle pieces that make up our soul. They are the pieces that the Universe wants and needs us to use on a daily basis, but that we stuff back in the closet because we “don’t want to break them” or “let others steal them from us.”
The more we feed our fears with negative self-talk, hatred, and anxiety, the more power they produce. The fears expand, gain weight, and eventually, we are dragged down to the point where we have a hard time moving in any direction because they are so heavy. It paralyzes us, and the darkness celebrates a win. The light inside still remains, but the calls for your attention become muffled and harder to understand.
But our fears have a secret. There is a good and beneficial part to our most feared situations.
Fear holds a key to what we really need. What we need to work on, what we’re good at, how we can be of more service to others (and self), they show us where our best assets and skills lie. In this contradictory way, fears show us how we will be best supported in this life.
This may sound incredibly weird and perplexing, but don’t be afraid of your fears. Ask them what they hold for your benefit and happiness…for your life purpose and loving power. See them as an opportunity to grow, to learn something new, and to evolve into a better person.
Fear may be a natural reaction to what we perceive as something to be afraid of, what we don’t want, and what to avoid…but in my experience I have found these ideas to be the opposite. My fear has turned into something I am incredibly grateful for.
For the longest time, I was extremely afraid of expressing my truth, and even just being open and honest with myself!
I would internally lash out at bloggers, writers, and authors for being so forthcoming with their issues, life experiences, and fears. I couldn’t understand why anyone would want to talk about their problems in their life. I subscribed to the idea that ignoring hardships would make them just *poof!* disappear. We all know that smothering feelings with ice cream and pretending everything is all beaches and butterflies doesn’t work very well.
My biggest fear is my voice. I have a fear of feeling worthy of expression, being heard, understood, and expressing myself clearly. Every single day, in a little way, I work on overcoming this fear. Interestingly, I did not choose to love this fear until I was “forced” to. When I lost my job, I knew I couldn’t live a surface existence any longer. I was in a place where I was trying desperately to fit in to the “norm” and not talk about my interests in metaphysical, Universal, angelic, spiritual, and wellness topics. But I had no where to hide from my fears anymore. Nothing was keeping me from it…no job or distractions anymore. I was gifted a blank slate and asked to start loving my fears. The fear of expression and self-empowerment has turned into my passion and life purpose.
Sometimes, I still get the feelings like I have to “work at overcoming it.” And you know what, this is OK! Many people will tell you that your life purpose, path, and radical truth should always be easy. Deep down it is. But we’re human, we hit road bumps, we encounter stop-signs, our energy runs low at times and high at others. This is life. The natural flow of “as above, so below” and yin and yang. Don’t let these experiences make you think that you’re not on the right track. You are. And don’t give up, even though the darkness pleads with you to let it stay, you have come to transform fear in to love.
What do you fear today? What dreams are making you sweat? I encourage you (as I do the same for myself), to open your arms and welcome this fear. Embrace the possibility that your fears may be a key to your life path. But ignore the feelings to feed the fear with more anxiety and confusion. Simply recognize the fear, ask for it’s advice, and take one small step today in facing it, loving it, and using it for your divine benefit.
Once you face your fear, you are allowing your light to shine brighter. And when your light is shining, the darkness disappears.
Love your fears.
They hold a key to your light.